I wanted this post to be about my crazy road trip adventure to Missouri and back, or the cute little last minute trip Lorenzo and I took to Orlando for Labor Day but unfortunately, I don’t have good news to share. My friend’s neighbor very recently committed suicide, and as the case with any situation like this, there are feelings of hurt, sadness, and anger. Lorenzo and I knew the gentleman and his family casually. Since they were our friends’ neighbor’s, we used to visit them when they would have gatherings in their home. They were always welcoming and friendly. One of their daughters and I share the same name. Our friend said they are like second parents to her and were planning a trip to Hawaii next year for the wife’s birthday and even wanted Lorenzo and I to join them.
Lorenzo and I are giving the family their space right now but are hoping to attend any services that they have. Lorenzo and his friend were also discussing other ways to be of assistance to the family (food, mowing the lawn, monetary gifts, etc.)
This is not the first time I’ve had to deal with suicide, unfortunately. Being in the military, we have been trained to try to spot warning signs and phrases of people who may be expressing suicidal thoughts and behaviors, but honestly, of the people I know who have done this, the signs were hard to catch. Events like this will make you reevaluate how you treat the people around you. Check on your friends and family, even the ones who always seem happy. Those are the ones who may be the best at hiding if something is really bothering them.
As a person who wanted to be a therapist for a while, I am a strong advocate for getting help and not being ashamed of it. We shouldn’t make people feel bad or isolated for wanting to get help. Don’t dismiss someone who may be trying to express their feelings to you about something that is bothering them. If you don’t feel qualified to help or feel like the issue is above your mental capacity, offer or recommend professional help. Below are some links to get help. I’m hoping that someone out there will read this and maybe call or give this information to someone who may be in need. I wouldn’t want to see anyone one else go through something like this.
Take care of each other.
National Suicide Prevention Line: 1-800-273-8255 (24/7 service and assistance)
Suicide Prevention How to help
Suicide Prevention Resource Center Training and other resources