Sometimes I don’t give Lorenzo enough credit. I always let him know how much I appreciate him, but I don’t think I give him enough credit.
I always thank him for the things that he does, even the little things because I want him to know that what he does is appreciated. In a past relationship, I was told that I don’t appreciate anything which I took kind of hard and didn’t want to bring a negative habit into this relationship. Granted this relationship is way better than that one, it’s about give AND take; it may not always be equal but the intent is there.
I sometimes give Lorenzo a hard time because he works so much and rarely ever makes time to enjoy himself, which sometimes includes spending time with me. One day when he was working from home I had somethings on my mind and I decided to tell him what was bothering me. He listened attentively and didn’t get defensive or angry. He told me some things that he was feeling (things I didn’t know) and then we came to an understanding that we will both try to do better going forward.
I wanted him to relax more and have more fun, especially with me. He wants me to focus more on my work and getting a new job (I’d expressed a great deal of contempt for my previous employer and he wanted to support me with my goal of finishing my degree and looking for a new job). So we both came to an agreement that we would put more effort into what the other was asking.
One major thing I am grateful for is that he is very strategic with his life. Sometimes my lack of patience causes me to rush into things without thinking it all the way through. Before Lorenzo, I used to say that I wanted to date a man who could teach me things, and for this I am indebted to him because patience is a valuable tool when used correctly. Lorenzo is also the definition of “unbothered”; I’ve never seen someone who is so above any pettiness that I want to copy that same behavior. This is not to say that nothing bothers him, but when I say his reactions to other people’s foolishness is simply outstanding. It actually makes people approach him differently because they know he won’t feed into their craziness.
Here is a list of things Lorenzo doesn’t have time for:
Its pretty awesome. Sometimes I want to get angry for him during times where I feel like he should be upset. He just explains to me how he feels and I just look at him and think to myself, “You’re either a unicorn or a robot, but I can’t decide which.”